Jun
09
2010
One reason, why women flounder so badly in relationships is because they compare every man they date to their fathers. For this case as Surani Ariff tell about girl, “Among my gal pals, when we meet to discuss the men (or the lack thereof) in our lives, we always compare them to our fathers. We s tart talking about the men in our lives and lo and behold, we start comparing them to the other man in our lives (Dad). And instantaneously….our fathers can do no wrong, our fathers are handsome, our fathers are the best. The blokes don’t stand a chance with the spectre of our dads hovering above them.”
Fathers are the first and most impactful presence in a girl’s life. He is the first man she sees. He is the first boyfriend and male confidante. Even the coldest of fathers make an impact on their daughters. That sets the pace in
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Apr
14
2010
Anda kesulitan menolak permintaan, tawaran, undangan atau untuk mengatakan yang tidak anda sukai tanpa merasa bersalah sesudahnya? Berikut adalah tip untuk bilang “tidak” secara positif.
Tak jarang kita merasa seperti terperangkap dalam suatu keadaan yang sebenarnya tidak kita sukai, hanya karena kita tidak bisa menolak permintaan orang lain. Rima seorang sekretaris di suatu perusahaan swasta, pernah merasakan gara0gara harus membantu dalam proses follow-up proposal ke semua klien bos, yang seharusnya bukan tugasnya. Pekerjaannya sendiri malah jadi keteteran dan harus lembur sampai malam setiap hari.
Ketika ditanya mengapa ia tidak menolak melakukan sesuatu yang bukan tanggung jawabnya.
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Mar
29
2010
Menurut Vicky, mimpi juga merupakan salah satu fenomena indera keenam. Fenomena ini telah diteliti secara ilmiah dan terbukti bahwa kita memang mengalami mimpi dan bahwa sebagian besar isi mimpi adalah tentang sesuatu yang akan terjadi di masa depan. Untuk membuktikan kebenarannya, yang harus kita lakukan lebih dahulu tentunya adalah mencatat mimpi, bagaimana caranya?
Membuat Jurnal Mimpi
Setiap kali habis bermimpi, cepat-cepatlah membuat catatan yang rinci, urutan ceritannya, tanggal terjadinya, situasi yang terjadi, termasuk emosi yang kita rasakan saat itu. Satu hal yang perlu dicatat adalah bahwa jika kita langsung menggerakkan badan begitu kita terbangun maka kemampuan kita mengingat mimpi semakin berkurang. Juga semakin
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Mar
28
2010
Sebenarnya kita selalu mendapat “informasi” atau semacam peringatan setiap kali sesuatu akan terjadi, bahkan ketika akan jatuh sakit. Masalahnya, mampukah kita menangkapnya?
Setiap kali habis terjadi bencana, seperti ledakan bom, gempa bumi, tsunami atau kecelakan pesawat, seringkali kita lalu membaca atau mendengar cerita orang mengenai firasat yang diperolehnya sebelum bencana terjadi. Menurut Sumarsono Wuryadi, hal itu tidak aneh karena sebenarnya di samping panca indera, manusia juga memiliki indera yang tidak kelihatan namun sangat peka, yang disebut ESP (extra sensory perception).
Meskipun tidak setiap orang yang menyadari adanya ESP, tetapi sebenarnya kita sudah sering menggunakannya. Misalnya saja ketika muncul semacam firasat bahwa akan terjadi sesuatu, sebenarnya itu merupakan sinyal bahwa ESP kita menangkap informasi akan terjadi bencana. Seringkali hal itu baru kita sadari setelah terjadi.
Masih banyak contoh penggunaan ESP yang dilakukan orang
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Oct
21
2009
There has been plenty of publicity about harmful ultraviolet (UV) rays and the demage it does to our skin. Most of us now know sensibly enough to cover up or apply protective sunscreen before stepping out into the sun; and a good number religiously follow those simple steps to prevent sunburn, skin cancer and age spots.
Unfortunately, we tend to overlook caring for our eyes; or perhaps don’t take the danger seriously enough. UV rays are equally as damaging to our eyes as on our skin; and since we can’t avoid stepping out into the sun, we must protect them before permanent damage is done.
UV Damage
It’s all well and good that our skin can be adequately protected with sunscreen, but what of our eyes?
Exposure to UVA and UVB rays can have adverse effects on our eyes and vision. It damages the eye’s surface tissues as well as the cornea and lens. It can burn the front surface of the eye, much like
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Oct
20
2009
When contemplating suicide, the individual is attempting to take control of a situation they feel they have no control over. Thus, the best cure is helping them regain the control.
No body can ever predict how another person will react to more troubling or difficult things in life. Different people handle different situations in defferent ways – this is an undeniable fact of life. No matter how old you are.
But there are usually some clear advance warning signs that a friend may be in trouble and that suicide may be something he is considering. Since suicidal wishes could become a prevalent and potentially lethal problem in depressed patients, it is important for therapists to understand why the patient is considering such a drastic action in the first place.
The therapist will then be in a better position to select appropriate and effective techniques to deal with the particular problem. However, no antisuicidal strategy is of any
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Oct
18
2009
Making Changes
Asian diets are still strongly influenced by tradisional shopping, cooking and consumption behaviours. Consumers are more likely to make the bulk of their purchases from wet markets and street foods. There is a high incidence of eating out especially from hawker stalls and local restaurants.
Meansure to encourage healthier lifestyles need to be based on this traditional culture if they are to have any impact. The provision of nutrition information should be made available across all categories of foods and beverages particularly those which make the most contribution to energy and nutrient intakes.
This study showed that people in both Bangkok and Shanghai are eager to get more information on diet and healthy lifestyle. Public health authorities need to determine how best to address these needs and take advantage of the opportunity this offers for education.
Based on this study, it would be premature to mandate any
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Oct
16
2009
According to Asian Food Information Centre that there is little research in Asia looking oa consumer understanding of food label and the influence of labels and food choice and behaviour; it is unknown how well research from Europe ot the US could apply here.
In recent years, regulators in several Asian countries have been looking at ways to provide nutrition information on food packaging in additional to the standart ingredient list and nutrition information panel – which is required in most, but not all, countries.
Changing lifestyles, including declines in physical activity and changes in dietary intakes, have led to rises in lifestyle related disorders such as obesity as well as diabetes and coronary heart disease.
Nutrition information on food and beverages (as one component of an overall nutrition education programme), is been as a way to help consumers make informed choice as part of a healthier lifestyle.
Effort to
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Oct
12
2009
The battle against the sexualisation of our children is an ongoing one, requiring a constant balancing act – that can be guided by modelling what influences are appropriate.
Throughout the word, girls are increasingly being force-fed a steady diet of products and images that pressure them to be sexy.
From clothing to cartoons, choreography to commercials, the rampant emphasis on sexuality undercuts parents’ efforts to instill purity and selfesteem in their daughters.
The American Psycological Association (APA) warns that this sexualisation of girls is harmful to their self image and healthy development.
“Girls are experiencing teen plesuares at younger and younger ages. However, they are not able to deal with these issues because they cognitive development is out of sync with their social emotional and sexual development,” the APA reported.
The proliferation of sexual images also undermines a girl’s confidence in
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Oct
11
2009
Untuk sukses dalam karier dan dalam hidup, tidak cukup hanya kerja keras saja, tapi juga perlu kebiasaan-kebiasaan baik, semakin tinggi peluang anda untuk sukses di dalam hidup. Pada kenyataannya, kebiasaan baik ini adalah jalan pintas menuju sukses. Jika anda tidak punya dasar kebiasaan-kebiasaan sukses tersebut seperti gosok gigi atau mandi secara baik, bisa dipastikan orang-orang akan menjaga jarak, secerdas apa pun anda, atau sekeras apa pun anda dalam bekerja. Dalam scenario seperti ini, seseorang dengan kebiasaan bersih yang kerja kerasnya separuh dari kerja keras anda atau bahkan kurang dari separuh akan lebih sukses di dalam masyarakat. Contoh sederhana ini menunjukkan kekuatan kebiasaan-kebiasaan baik. Berikut, cara mengembangkan kebiasaan-kebiasaan baik.
SABAR
Kebiasaan tak bisa dibentuk dalam semalam. Untuk mengembangkan kebiasaan-kebiasaan baik yang tepat perlu latihan berhari-hari atau bahkan berbulan-bulan. Bersabar dan terus
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